Posted by torrid on June 17, 2011, at 9:21:07
In reply to Re: Child Abuse/Familydysfunction.. lets chat, posted by Lamdage on June 17, 2011, at 6:16:29
I guess I'm older then you so I'm past the anger. I cut off my family 100% for 7 years in the 90's and those were good years. I hope you get to point I'm at now, I'm strong enough to have a little contact with family. My parent no loner can damage me. I had a sibling, a sociopath sister that finished what my mother started. If siblings bond during abuse there is better survival but when older siblings copy the abusive parent the child singeled out doesn't have much chance.
I call my mother the self esteen killer, the neighbors called her scary mary. She is just a very weak selfish person and I'm indifferent to her. indifference is what you need to aim for, hate is love in a different form, hate is unrequited love. It's not that uncommon, there are many people who have suffered, but survivors don't talk about it, it becomes part of the past and no longer in the present. No matter how many years ago if you hate them it's in your present. I acully feel bad for my mother and her brother "uncle fingers". My sister I don't feel bad for her, if something bad happens to her, I feel bad for her but not that bad, I may even feel, well OK she getting back some of what she put out. I wouldn't take pleasure in her demize but it would make sence.
sory about my spelling, spelling is just guess work for me
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