Posted by emmanuel98 on June 30, 2011, at 21:01:31
In reply to Re: update » emmanuel98, posted by Annabelle Smith on June 30, 2011, at 8:43:55
> p.s.
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> I feel like your therapist, Emmanuel, is not comfortable with transferences.
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> is this true?Not at all. This is what he does - psychodynamic therapy. It's all about transference. He just always wanted to try to control the intensity of it, partly to protect me from being overly dependent on him. I was obsessed with him and therapy almost from day one. He wanted me to live a more balanced life. I have a husband and daughter and he felt that it would be destructive for him "re-parent" me with more frequent therapy sessions, when I already had important corrective relationships in my life and was cultivating more through AA. I think his judgement was very sound.
Some transferences get crazy and near psychotic, like the famous case of Anna O. I was like Anna O -- a crazy transference just waiting for the right set of circumstances to bring it out.
A few years before I started seeing him, I became obsessed with this surgeon I saw who was very kind and held my hand in both of his before the surgery and reassured me that I would be fine. That little act of kindness and compassion just obsessed me and I just about stalked this guy. So the kindness and compassion of my p-doc was almost more than I could handle.
When you've been starved of kindness and compassion your whole life, your heart craves it and can't let go when you finally experience it.
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