Posted by Annabelle Smith on June 29, 2011, at 15:15:51
In reply to Re: update, posted by sigismund on June 29, 2011, at 13:27:40
Thanks, Sig.
5 hours a week would certainly be intense, although I have heard frequently of intense transferences developing on 1 or 2 hours a week as well. I don't think it is that difficult to develop an intense transference on 1 hour a week if you are so primed-- with a certain attachment style and issues, coupled with a therapist to whom you really connect-- to do so.
Also, I do think that transference is a kind of deep-- I would say in my case, primal- love. And I have come to the conclusion-- have made the decision for myself-- that there is nothing wrong with that, nothing to be ashamed of or to feel "bad" about. It is like all loves and desires throughout life become directed on this one person. My priest told me-- and I agree with him, though at this point in the process it hurts to focus on for too long-- that ultimately one of the goals of my therapy would be for this intense, overwhelming, deep primal love that is totally focused upon my therapist to dissipate from its focus on him and blossom out into other areas of my life-- while I will still love my therapist-- I always will-- I will now feel similar (though not overwhelmingly focused in the transferential sense) for other people, for God, for places and other things. That will be healing and creating a life for myself full of meaning and vitality.
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