Posted by lola2 on April 26, 2011, at 5:43:31
In reply to Why do we want our Ts to like us?, posted by pegasus on April 25, 2011, at 17:05:09
> A question has come up in my sessions lately: Why does it matter so much to me whether my T likes me and cares about me. (With a sub-question: Is liking and caring about someone the same thing?)
i think that if you like a person you will automatically have care for them.>
> When this was posed to me, my answer was, "Uh . . . well, I would just feel awful working with someone who didn't like me." And I haven't gotten any further with it since then.
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> Why would that feel so awful? Is this a universal thing? I mean, do you all share this need to be liked by your T? And exactly how much do they need to like us, for it to be OK? Is an off-handed, more-or-less liking enough? I think not, for me, but I can't say why.
>ive never thought about whether my t likes me or not, i guess i just assume he does. if he didn't like me i would be able to tell and would get a new one.
> Does anyone have any thoughts about this that are better formed than mine?
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> - Pits so important that they like you, if a t didn't like their client they wouldn't be able to be gueniune, thats crucial in therapy. also the client could tell. if you feel a connection, feel a guenuineness from your t than i wouldnt worry about it. but it might go deeper for you than just your t liking you. maybe the issue is deeper rooted?
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