Posted by Dinah on May 2, 2011, at 7:07:15
In reply to Re: Why do we want our Ts to like us?, posted by Tabitha on May 2, 2011, at 2:54:24
Well, I'm not sure that even if you are *always* complaining, miserable, suffering, and desperate when you're with her, that that necessarily makes you unlikeable. Maybe not the best companion for a night on the town, but not unlikeable. :)
But even the best of us surely have moments when we're unlikeable. Selfish, shrewish, mulish, unkind, sulky, ungrateful. If not towards our therapist then towards *someone*.
Those may be the times when we're recipients of the grace of being loved - by whatever name - even when we aren't necessarily, at the moment, liked.
Do you think your current feelings about therapy might be influencing your thoughts?
Although, I must say, if she hasn't given you the sense after all these years that she likes you, at the core, then maybe she's doing more harm than good. What a message for a therapist to send! In particular moments, being loved without being liked is a grace. If unending, I tend to think it's corrosive.
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