Posted by pegasus on May 3, 2011, at 9:43:23
In reply to Re: Why do I not want my T to like me? » Dinah, posted by Tabitha on May 3, 2011, at 1:23:27
No worries about hijacking, Tabitha. I think you're adding something interesting to this discussion. Interesting, and kind of mind boggling to me. Probably like Dinah's post was mind boggling to you. It's good food for thought.
I also am interested in Dinah's distinction between liking and enjoying. It makes me think of a professor I had who was hilarious, and I thoroughly enjoyed spending time in his class. We would laugh and laugh, and I looked forward to each time I'd experience him. But I didn't really like him much, because his humor could be mean, and he tended to be too critical and not supportive enough of the students, and I could never make sense of his advice.
I think the issue for my therapy is probably more along the lines of what I do in therapy to be liked, since that's so important to me. I'm not good at bringing in things I'm ashamed of (which are many), and I do try to adjust myself to be the sort of person my T might like. Although, he says that we have so much in common that it's kind of pointless to do that (not in those words). Meaning that we don't have to look hard to find common ground, if that's what I'm trying to do.
I see him today. I'll let you know what comes of this discussion then.
- P
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