Posted by Rigby on October 27, 2004, at 19:42:13
In reply to she sent me a card :-(, posted by shrinking violet on October 27, 2004, at 14:20:36
Hi SV,
She said to consider counseling again if you think it can help you. Do you possibly feel like you can't because of pride? I think if you *feel* like you want/need to go back, then go back.
Leaving is *very* hard. But sometimes the process of leaving is important. I've quit therapy a few times and each time has been really important--I've learned alot from the process of ripping away an attachment. I went back a few times--and that was important too.
Someone once said to me that you "just know" when you're done with therapy. You just know it. It sounds like maybe you aren't done but are possibly inflicting some pain on yourself?
Anyway, I'm sorry if any of this is off--I wanted to respond though as I bet you are really sad.
Please keep writing, okay?
> my t sent me a card. i got it today. i quit with her two weeks ago, but she thought i would reschedule at some point. i sent her an email last week making it more final.
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> i have so many regrets with her, namely i regret that our last session was our last session---it wasnt the way i would have wanted to end with her. she sort of left it open...for me to schedule if i think counseling can help me with anything....but i know i can't. i hate that this is so hard. it seems to get harder instead of easier, why is that?
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> in my last email to her, i basically took the blame for everything. i let her know that the reason i was leaving was for HER, not for me, because i thought it would be best for her. i told her i'd miss her and think of her, blah blah. i'm such an idiot.
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> i hate that i screw everything up. why is that? if i could have just talked to her, things would have been very different.
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> ironically i have an appt with my nutritionist tomorrow. i quit with her earlier this year after i figured i was wasting her time since i never did anything she told me to. last week i emailed her to reschedule...i think i'm partly making sure someone is there since my t no longer is. and i really like my n (and she knows my t very well, they work at the same uni and see each other). but, she isn't my t. kind of stupid i'm seeing her b/c right now i never want to eat again. i hope she's ready....i think i'm going to be a mess tomorrow. :(
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> why is this so hard???
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