Posted by shrinking violet on October 27, 2004, at 21:25:28
In reply to Re: she sent me a card :-(, posted by Rigby on October 27, 2004, at 19:42:13
>> She said to consider counseling again if you think it can help you. Do you possibly feel like you can't because of pride? I think if you *feel* like you want/need to go back, then go back.
Yes, partly. I've quit and gone back a number of times before. I feel like I can't/shouldn't do it again. And, mainly, I think it's best for her if I stay away.
>> Leaving is *very* hard. But sometimes the process of leaving is important. I've quit therapy a few times and each time has been really important--I've learned alot from the process of ripping away an attachment. I went back a few times--and that was important too.Yeah, well, I've gone through this "ripping away" with various people...Is it too much to ask to have ONE person see it through with me? And I cant blame her b/c I left first, but, I was mainly reacting to her frustration.
>> Someone once said to me that you "just know" when you're done with therapy. You just know it. It sounds like maybe you aren't done but are possibly inflicting some pain on yourself?Hm, no, I don't even think I really started. My T and I didn't "do" much therapy...or at least it didn't feel like it. I didn't say much, so, it made it hard. I probably am hurting myself (I'm good at that, at least). I'm such an idiot too...if I had just responded TO HER IN SESSION to the stuff she said, instead of having these latent reactions, this could have been avoided. I always do that...I always get hurt or angry or upset at something that happened during session *after* session, and then I usually lash out at her in email, or I quit with her...*sigh* I'm so unbelievably sick of myself.
>> Anyway, I'm sorry if any of this is off--I wanted to respond though as I bet you are really sad.No you had some good points to make, thank you. And, I appreciate the thought....I am really sad.
Thank you.
SV
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