Posted by Poet on October 29, 2004, at 11:45:54
In reply to maybe I'll go back.....but with conditions, posted by shrinking violet on October 28, 2004, at 18:54:38
Hi SV,
I don't think it's presumptuous of you to assume that she'll want to see you. I think that by making an appointment, not emailing her about it first, will show her that you realize you need to come back, but this time around it will be different.
I like your conditions. Therapist's always say that we are in charge, right? You have taken charge.
I think she'll be more than happy to help you learn to meditate and learn mindfulness. I do guided imagery in therapy. I think it's a very non-threatening way to lead me to talk about the stuff that is so hard to tell her directly.
My therapist keeps telling me she cares about me even though I told her not to say it. She says that I need to accept it and that I can't control her feelings. I suspect yours will say something similiar. I gave up telling her not to say it, now I just glare at her. She glares back.
Maybe you can read her your conditions? If she tries to grab the paper, look at her and say *rule number 2, if I bring in something to read, I read it outloud to you.*
I think they are reasonable and clearly should show her that this is what you think will help you to benefit from therapy.
Good luck. I went back with your help, if I can help you in any other way, let me know.
Poet
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