Posted by LittleGirlLost on July 8, 2005, at 22:43:20
In reply to Re: Need help figuring out feelings..... please? » LittleGirlLost, posted by Jen Star on July 8, 2005, at 20:30:16
> It seems frustrating that she agreed to tell you, and must have had some inkling of what it meant to you, but then teased you (sort of, in the therapeutic kind of way!) and you never got the answer from her. To ME, that seems kind of mean.
I understand what you are saying, but I really don't think she meant any harm. She was probably trying to protect me because it seems that she was going to tell me up until I started talking about distance making me worry more, the further away it was.
> I guess I'd feel dissed, in your shoes -- like you went out on a limb by asking, but then she didn't even answer you. She should tell you where she's going, or be upfront and say "I'm not comfortable sharing such personal details about my life with clients, but I assure you I'll be safe and careful, and I hope that you have a great time here while I'm away." (or something like that!)I see what you are saying. But like I said above, I think she was either trying to protect me, or it's possible she forgot because when I brought it up the second time, she did apologize and seemed embarrassed for not telling me initially. I think she just wanted to give me a chance first to explore all of my feelings which is something I have trouble with, so when I started going in a different direction (by talking about distance) it slipped both our minds (I think) because I didn't actually realize it at the time either.
> Hmmmmm. Do you think you'll bring it up for discussion when she returns? Do you think you'll tell her that you called, and about your feelings when you heard it was Germany?I will. (Or at least I'll try!) No, I will make myself do it. I just feel bad about my feelings though. I mean, as a rational adult, I want to be happy for her! She deserves to take a vacation. I mean, I get more vacation time than she takes, and she's in private practice! So I realize I am lucky in that respect. I want to be happy for her. That's the type of person I am; when I'm a rational adult... I just don't feel that way now, and I feel guilty about that.
Thanks for your input JenStar, I appreciate your feedback even though it was a different angle. :)
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