Posted by LadyBug on July 9, 2005, at 13:28:45
In reply to Re: Need help figuring out feelings..... please? » LittleGirlLost, posted by Tamar on July 8, 2005, at 18:55:35
I remember the times when my therapist has gone away. It's been a lot of times over the 8 1/2 years I've been seeing her. I would ask where she was going because I needed the reasurrance of knowing where she'd be. I remember that even the weekends were hard for me because I knew where she was during the week as she was in her office. On the weekend, she was free to be wherever she wanted to be. I would panic each Friday. It took us some work to get through this. Do you know what she did for me? She wrote me a note on some special note paper and mailed it out to me on Friday so I'd get in on Sat. I would carry her note in my pocket all weekend and sometimes until I saw her again. She did that for over a year!!! Without fail! It helped me know she was there for me even though I didn't know where she was exactly. It helped me trust that I'd see her again.
A few years ago, she went to London. We talked about it before she left. I knew I felt more unsure since she was leaving the country. I gave her a small gold heart to take with her. She kept it in one of the lavender envelopes she used to mail her notes to me in. And she kept it in her purse while she was gone. I knew a part of me was with her while she was away. When she returned, she gave it back. To this day, I have the gold heart on my key chain as a reminder.
I'm glad you had the courage to call her back up. I wouldn't have the courage to do that. I'm sure glad he told you where she was. It had to feel better to know. I'm glad she is calling you when she get's back. Mine did that a few times too. Now I know I can call her voice mail and when she changes it from being away to her normal one, I know she's back and safe.
I think this is growth for you. It will get better for you with time.
Continuity is so important in therapy. It sounds like you have a good therapist. I'm here for you if you need it.LadyBug
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